Recently I was feeling mentally stuck and extremely frustrated as a result. And I did NOT like it. Typically I would grab my journal and “write it out”. Nine times out of ten this usually works for me. Not wanting to abandon my journal however (because it is such a powerful tool of self-expression for me), my daughter suggested a Word Dump.

I don’t know about you, but I have never heard of this before. She gave these simple instructions:

Simply put pen to paper 📝 and write whatever words or phrases pop into your mind.

It’s as easy as that! I have included my example above.

Because I LOVE color, I started out with an orange pen. By the time I finished, I discovered a theme had emerged. I was extremely frustrated with all things technology. I also discovered however, that I FELT better having purged those words and having identified the source of my mental block and frustration. To put words to it; I felt relieved and emotionally lighter.

I decided not to stop there. I grabbed a new color, blue this time, and continued to write. Clearly I had more “angst” to unleash but I was loosing steam. I was feeling quite satisfied with this exercise because I was achieving the results I was seeking. My goal was to simply feel better and no longer feel “stuck”. It was working.

However, I didn’t feel that I was done quite yet. So I grabbed another pen, red this time. Without even making the connection until this very moment, my instincts chose red because it is a POWER color. This time a new theme emerged!! PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT! 💡💡🌟✨

WOW… insert me taking a moment here… just Wow!

I am incredibly grateful that I added the last step because it is this step and this color that reignited the passion I feel for the new adventure. It is vital for me to get out the “yuck” but to also move forward into positive action. What an absolutely beautiful and unexpected byproduct:


Oh how my heart bubbles up with happiness and determination just reflecting back on this exercise. To be sure, it is going to be another way that I use my journal, another tool going into my toolbox! 🧰🔨🔧

Are you feeling stuck or blocked today? Why don’t you try your own Word Dump? Make it your own! As with any tool, take the parts that you like and discard the rest.

Exercises like this for me, remove a mental and emotional barrier of the moment which allows me to continue moving forward. You know why? Because…

It’s time 🍁🍂

Blessings dear ones,


Do More of What Brings You Joy

I have been journaling ever since I was a freshman in high school. I was really struggling with what I now know to be depression and my dear beloved Pastor Woody Floto suggested it as a tool to talk to God and share my feelings with Him. I started then and have been doing it ever since. (It’s only been a couple of years… 🤓)

Segway Alert 🚨 You might find it funny that I remember censoring my journal entries because I was afraid my daughter (yes, daughter… how did I know I’d have a daughter? But, that’s what my 14 year old brain thought at the time) would one day find my journals, read them, and think I was a horrible person. “Oh honey 💔…” If I could go back and talk to that young, innocent, depressed girl, I’d tell her to “let it all out! No censorship allowed. Journaling is an excellent form of self-expression.” I’d tell her that “learning how to navigate through all these emotions; to name, claim, express, get out, accept, cope with emotions is vital to inner wellbeing. And journaling is a very wonderful, healthy mental, emotional, spiritual tool to do just that!” 📝

Fast forward a few years, back to this day: I still love journaling! Each journal becomes like a dear, dear friend to me. I always feel a tinge of sadness when I finish the last page and retire the book to my special drawer dedicated to the pages and pages of my life.

For me, writing in my journal has become a habit and a way of life. I use it in SO many ways! So I thought I would share a recent journal entry with you. When I opened the blank page in this journal, it stated in the middle; “Do More of What Brings You Joy”. I decided to fill the page with words and phrases of things that make me happy. I switched it up and used my colored pens to bring the page and my very thoughts and dreams alive. I had so much fun doing it this way. 🖍📘🖍📗

I am looking at this journal entry a lot!! It makes me happy with a mere simple glance. It makes my heart feel warm and hopeful. And it places the words in my mind and sparks my imagination of all that I hope my present and future will hold.

And it occurs to me as I write this post, how much I am enjoying the little moments of this new journey, and doing so to the fullest! This, dear ones, is the sweet spot. Maybe this going after my dreams stuff isn’t all scary and filled with uncertainties after all. I am discovering such precious little victories! My heart beat quickens a tad as I acknowledge this!

I think the best way for me to wrap up this special blog moment is to vow to continue to share these special little victories with you. My hope is that it will encourage you to celebrate your own little and big victories. They are really important after all aren’t they? I believe so. 🌈

What are some of the special victories you are experiencing today? Acknowledge it. Celebrate it. Share it. And cherish your moment within it.

And why should we do that?

It’s time…. 🌅

Blessings dear ones,


Self-Care Isn’t As Effective When I Don’t “Set My Mind” To It

I’ve discovered that one of my “sure fire” ways of sabotaging my self-care time goes something like this:

Me to Myself: Ugh 😫 I am spent! I really need to relax. I should really… (insert journaling or going for a walk or reading or do a puzzle or any of the other things on my self-care list). But I should really get this (house chore) done first or that (work task) done first.

Me Responding to Myself: But I really would love to just relax for a little while. I don’t really feel like doing any of the things on my To Do List but I’ll just keep going…

And then, this is what I look 👀 like.

EXHIBIT A : No lie, it’s really what I look 👀 like.

If I am lucky, I recognize I am doing this and tell myself to “Just Stop 🛑 It”!

Segway Alert 🚨 If you want a really good belly laugh check out the Bob Newhart YouTube clip by the name, Stop It. Honestly, I laughed so hard the first (and 2nd, 3rd, 4th-you get the picture 🤣) time I watched it. Shout out to my friend Christi F. who shared it with me. 😉 Now, whenever I say “Just Stop It” to myself in my head, my voice sounds just like his. I think I’ll go watch it again before I continue. Because finding ways to laugh is a REALLY big thing on my self-care list.

This, I might add is the opposite of moving forward toward my dreams. At this point I am simply BUSY, not PRODUCTIVE. I don’t know about you, but I do not like busy. I like productive.

In order to be productive, I need to return to self-care. Self-care that I DO… intentionally and with permission. This is a pretty big deal for me because otherwise it is just more ➡️ reinsert Exhibit A from above.

When I am intentional about self-care, when I give myself full and complete PERMISSION to enjoy whatever self-care thing I choose to do, it is a game changer. I have learned that I must SET MY MIND to appreciate the down time I am gifting to myself. THAT is the sweet spot!

EXHIBIT B : Me in my sweet spot.

So, for today I will choose:

• Less of EXHIBIT A

By choosing to intentionally and with permission (SET MY MIND) to do the following:

“Go to church” online, take a glorious nap, journal, and learn something new.

And then I will experience more of EXHIBIT B.

What will you do intentionally and give yourself permission (SETTING YOUR MIND) to enjoy today? This my friends will be moving forward. Because…

It’s time… 🍁🍂

Blessings dear ones,


Friendly Friday Challenge – “Quiet Places”

Menoninee Lighthouse in Menominee, Michigan

This post is me joining the Friendly Friday Challenge – “Quiet Places” posted on the site “Something to Ponder About”. Check out the link below. It’s awesome! 🌅

Friendly Friday Challenge – Quiet Places

Blogging is opening up a whole new world to me! I am getting to “meet” such wonderful new people as I “travel” around the (blogging 📝) globe. 🌎 I think I even “met” a kindred spirit from Australia! 😊

I came across a blog post in which interesting folks from EVERYWHERE share a picture and a post about the “quiet places” they retreat to when they need to renew their spirits.

I unleashed my imagination and now it gets to soar as it travels to the mountains of Norway or fly to the banks of the Tauber River in Germany as I view the beautiful photos from the Friendly Friday Challenge post (link shared above).

Or to any other number of places as I conjure up images or smells or sounds that the pictures or discriptions from other commentators evoke.

Because this journey is all about “doing that thing”, I am going to join this challenge! There is a helpful link that discusses how to join. But oh boy….

Segway Alert 🚨 Oh dear Lord… even with Amanda’s helpful link to describe how to post, copy URL’s, tagging and pinning… I still am clueless! Oy vay! Insert me muttering under my breath… “I think I can. I think I Can. I think I CAN!” 👍

I often say that the mind is such a powerful thing. And today I am reminded of two things as I write this post:

• I am experiencing the thrill of unexpected pleasure at the mere discovery of incredible, interesting, passionate people from around the globe. The love that bubbles up from my heart just swells when I “talk” to new people from the blogging world or from new Facebook groups I have joined. For a goofy gal who has a “Favorite Word List” I find a lack of adequate words to express this newfound joy of discovery. But Joy pretty much sums it up in one word.

Joy… doesn’t that just roll off the tongue beautifully? I honestly can’t wait to uncover and discover what other beautiful surprises are in store for me in the new adventure. Insert me here with arms wide open and hands lifted Heavenward as I embrace this gift of life.

I am also reminded of this. I am just mere days into the new adventure. What if I had continued with old “stinkin’ thinkin’” patterns or “shut down before I really got started” pattern. I would have missed out on today’s joy. I would have missed out on yesterday’s sense of accomplishment. I would be missing out on how amazing it feels to be plowing right smack dab through my fears and allowing seeds of determination to be taking root.

I am going to be tending those seeds in my soul with the utmost of TLC. I will let the sun shine on and pull away the weeds. I’ll cherish the precious new creation that emerges.

Another unexpected surprise is taking place, I feel less fear and uncertainty today than I did at the start. And actually, I take that right back. In THIS moment I don’t feel ANY fear or uncertainty because pure joy has taken up full capacity in my heart. There just is no room today for any of the “yucky, icky stuff”. Thank you God!

I have included two pictures of the “Quiet Places” I enjoy. 🍁🌳🍂🌲🌾

Pictured Rocks hiking trails in Michigan
One of the many peaceful views where my parents live in Menominee, MI

The new adventure is helping me discover the “Quiet and Peaceful Places” within my soul. I can go to these inner places any time I choose.

I am so glad I accepted this Friendly Friday challenge! It has uncovered some precious treasures. What joys are waiting for you in your Quiet Place? Let’s find out together because…

It’s time….

Blessings dear ones,


Posted for Amanda’s Friendly Friday’s 💙

Friendly Friday Callenge

Continue reading “Friendly Friday Challenge – “Quiet Places””

Self-Care Isn’t Self-Care Unless I Actually DO It! It’s As Simple As That!

I have a confession to make. I was SO excited about a number of things that I am working on, this blog being one of them, that I was going full steam ahead without taking adequate care of myself. I have felt this fire within and it makes me feel so alive! But I had to push my pause button and force myself to do some things to give my brain and body a rest. I have a well-developed and oft used self-care list that I practice on a (mostly) regular basis.

Thursday late afternoon, I recognized how tired I was. I was sluggish and experiencing brain fog. That evening, I spent just watching tv and was able to get lost in the program. There are times that doing something “mindless” and allowing myself to check out mentally are what I NEED to do. 

Friday morning I was able to “meet online” with a dear friend for prayers and devotions. It felt so good to pause to pray and learn. Throughout the course of our time together I was able to just talk and share from the heart. She is able to challenge me while doing so in the loving, encouraging, downright funny way that is just uniquely special about her. I was amazed at how “keyed” up I had been, while being completely unaware of it, until I physically felt my body relax by the end of our time together. I often use the example of feeling like a balloon, air (thoughts, emotions, tensions, etc.) filling that balloon throughout the week; the act of prayers, spending time with God, and a good heart-to-heart that let all that air out. I think this was the MOST important thing I did for myself yesterday.

During my online meet with my friend, my daughter called with a need. Normally I would drop everything and “run”.

Segway alert and “Actual Introduction” here. 🙂 I am home on quarentine until October 12, so I literally can’t run anywhere. lol But I am grateful because my son who tested positive is on the mend and my husband and I remain healthy.  Fun fact about me: I met my husband when we were both 17. We “ran away” to elope at age 22. I have a grown daughter who is getting married in 11 months and I am reminded why my husband and I eloped. And I have a 17 son who will graduate high school next May. It’s going to be quite a year!

As I was saying, normally I’d drop everything. But I recognized how much I needed this time with my friend and with God, so I told my daughter that I would get back to her after a bit. This was a REALLY big deal for me to do. I confess, far too often it is my pattern to put everyone before myself. I thought I had made progress in this area, but when I am honest with myself, I can see I clearly need to examine this more. It seems to be the most difficult to do with my immediate family.

But here is my lesson, by taking the time I needed and the result feeling drastically different (insert keyed up, tense, chair rocking me before, and then…. insert me relaxed, smiling again, and not making my friend dizzy by rocking incessantly back and forth.); I felt like I had more to give again. “Self-care is not selfish”. I’m not sure who to give credit to for saying that but it really is true. I was grateful to have put this into practice. It made a huge difference. It ALWAYS does.

I am reminded that positive reinforcement happens organically when I take care of myself. The by-product for me in the past 48 hours? I feel “back to myself“, with body, mind, and spirit feeling rejuvenated.

And you know what? I have one more day to my weekend and I am going to continue with my self-care by “going to church” online, taking a nap, journaling, and learning something new. THAT is me making one more step in the right direction of going after my dreams. Sometimes life is just as simple as that. Self-care isn’t self-care if I don’t do it.

It’s time…

Blessings dear ones,


What are your favorite self-care tips and tools. What keeps you from practicing self-care. Write a comment below or subscribe by signing up with your email.

Perfect in My Imperfection

Are any of you perfectionists? I am and I can tell you it is NOT something that has served me well throughout my lifetime. It has been stifling. It has been crippling. It has stopped me from doing something even before I ever got started. It fuels the fire of self-doubt and self-criticism. None of these things help me to be on top of my mental game. In fact the opposite is true. It saps my energy and enthusiasm. And this is no longer acceptable to me.

This blog is a very good example. I seriously know nothing about blogging. The technology involved is kicking me in the butt (see Technophobia Tailspin Take Aback for more on that!) Normally, I’d read, research, get overwhelmed and shut right down. Maybe I’d write a post or two and feel good about it that but stop right there. The reasons would be endless…

* but one would cut me off right at the pass. Not being perfect. Not doing it good enough. Not.Being.Good.Enough. Does any of this ring true for you?

Segway Alert 🚨 The endless reasons I would quit before I really get rolling? Goodness, that is entirely another post. Or ten. Or twenty… You get the picture. 😂

But I digress, I was talking about perfectionistic tendencies. This is the first time that I am not shutting down. It is quite uncomfortable, I must say.  Instead of putting it off until… (I’ve proofed a post a million times or I’ve figured out tags or I’ve figured out how to upload pictures or understand EVERYTHING there is to know about EVERYTHING!); instead of doing that… I am doing something Every.Single.Day.

It excites me to be putting one foot in front of the other and seeing results. The posts might be imperfect. The blog site might be elementary. I am making a great many mistakes. My progress is slow. But I am moving forward! 

My mistakes are my mistakes and I am learning from each and every one of them.  The sense of accomplishment is mine and it feels amazing! And the end result of this? Oh my goodness if I am not waking up in the morning with more enthusiasm than I have ever felt in my entire life.  I am celebrating each little success. Because achieving my dreams will take place by choosing new actions one day at a time. 

The new actions are these:

  • learning, learning, and more learning (and yes, this includes technology)
  • writing, writing, and writing (about going after my dreams!)
  • following the plan I developed today. 🙂
  • continuing to write in my journal about why I can achieve my dreams (today’s acknowledgement? “Why I can achieve my dreams: I can achieve my dreams because I am proving something to myself. I am not shutting down this blog because is not a perfect, beautiful, witty, knock your socks off blog.” 

I feel butterflies in my stomach because I just realized something! This blog is going to evolve as I evolve! It is going to get better as I get better. And that is wonderful! Why would I expect myself to be perfect at this new venture ( or any new venture)? What an unrealistic expectation (and that is no longer acceptable.) 

I can tell the phrase “no longer acceptable to me” is going to come up a lot! And that IS acceptable. I’m really flipping everything upside down in my life.  The view is quite different from this upside down perspective and I’m okay with that.  And how about this for reframing perfectionism? I AM perfect in my INPERFECTION!

What would it look like for you from the upside down view? What is no longer acceptable to you? Let’s flip things upside down together.  I know we CAN do it together! You know why?

It’s time…

Blessings dear ones,



Technophobia Tailspin Take Aback

Technophobia – definition (noun) – an irrational (not irrational for me) or disproportionate fear (huh, disproportionate you you say? Nope, not disproportionate to me, this lion size fear) of technology, especially… to advanced digital technology (Do email landing pages, plugins, jetpacks, taglines, domains, etc. all count as advanced? They sure feel like advanced to me. Ugh!)

Tailspin – definition (noun) – a sudden and helpless collapse into failure, confusion, or the like (Insert image of me, dramatically; think Scarlet O’Hara/Gone with the Wind style dramatic, sighing and whithering to the floor in despair and this is an adequate discription of me in a technophobic state! )


I EXPERIENCE A Take Aback Moment!

Take aback – (verb), to astonish (OMG!!!! I DID IT! – Insert any technology accomplishment such as how to post pictures in this blog! Woot! Woot!)

This may seem like an overly dramatic way to discuss the topic of technology and my dreams. I assure you. It is not. The amount of time it has taken me to get this far on this blog is so ridiculous I dare not even share a number. Think, “Aliens have kidnapped “would be blogger” long.

Some things do not come easily to me. Technology and directions are two GLARING examples. But this journey I am on calls for me to learn. Now, learning anything in my profession is a joy to me. Insert choir singing angels here! Can you hear them? I can. Haha But now I am just getting silly! Yet it kind of explains the joy I feel when I figure something technology out, so I guess I’ll keep the analogy after all. 🙂

SEGWAY ALERT 🚨 I’m still not ready to talk about “Actual Introduction” stuff. I hope you don’t mind. At this point it really is not relevant.

Anyway, learning about technology is work. Hard, tiring, exasperating work! Insert huge dramatic sigh here. This time around however, I have a fierce determination.

I am glad this determination continues to bubble up in me because my fear is, if I back down on this area, what other things will I back down on? I don’t want to back away from ANYTHING that will hold me back from achieving my dreams. This feels REALLY significant to me. Almost like a defining moment; of determination and “stick-to-it-iveness”.

So I must say, I am discovering a bit about me and technology. With each little victory, I feel empowered! I am amazed!!! I celebrate! Insert image of crazy person whooping it up (think Vicki Gunvalson of The Real Housewives of Orange County) style! Really loud! That’s me! No lie!

Do you struggle with something that comes extremely difficult to you? Is it something that is important to learn in order to remove an obstacle in the way of you achieving your dreams? Let’s DO THIS THING together! Seriously, if I can keep going despite my “Technophobia Tailspins”, I just know you can too! And then we can experience our “Take Aback” moments together! Woot! Woot!

It’s time…

P.S. It occurs to me, somewhere along the way I think I may need to start a blog dictionary for you to reference as needed. What do you think? 🙂

Blessings on your journey dear ones,


Hopping off the “Crazy Train” of Self-Doubt

I recently emailed one of my mentors and shared a small success. I shared the details but as I did a whole lot of “stuff” just stumbled out in the email… I was SO tempted to delete it! SO tempted! But I didn’t. I hit send.

Then I began checking my email to see if I received a response back. How was my email received? Was it positive? I was pretty real in the email. If I’m honest, I craved the affirmation, the validation that I was on the right track. Hmmm… more “people pleasing”? It certainly smacks of just that. Have you done this? Sent something “out” into “cyber world” and waited with bated breath… would there be a response? A good one? One needing interpretation? Ugh! What a yucky, icky inner place to function from!!

Segway… Another “Anti-Introduction”. I love words. I have a favorite word list! And when I use them, I kind of crack myself up. For real. For some reason, “yucky, icky inner place” makes me chuckle. I am probably alone in this but that’s okay because I also LOVE humor and laughter!! In my “real life” I laugh A LOT. I’m not necessarily funny, more like quirky I’d say. I wish I could be funny honestly. You know, like the people that just make comments off the top of their heads in real life conversations and people just laugh? I love those kinds of people! But I’m not one of them. But I sure do like to laugh and smile a lot. It used to be a mask, but now it is genuine and just a way of life. But that is another blog post…. P.S. These segways may happen a lot. I hope you don’t mind. It’s kind of the way my brain works. Maybe I’ll do a SEGWAY ALERT! And if you want, you can just skip right past them. 😊

All right, where was I? Checking my email right? I didn’t like the feeling I was feeling, constantly checking and then second guessing… “Should I have sent all that? Maybe I shouldn’t have sent it at all!” I was driving myself nuts and decided to “Just stop it!” 🛑 I reminded myself of the following:

* I emailed all that I did because the person IS my mentor and the person IS in my safe circle ⭕️ to share my heart and life.

* The history of support and encouragement this person has provided has been lifelong and unwavering. Why would it all of a sudden change now? It wouldn’t. This train of thought was highly irrational and fueled by the major insecurities of the moment. So I decided I could trust the history of evidence and hop off the “crazy train” of self-doubt.

* And last, I had a CHOICE… I could choose to continue to drive myself crazy continuing to check my email or “Just stop it!” 🛑 and do something else.

So, the action I chose was… to stop the constant checking, divert my thoughts and energy to doing something productive. And you know what?!?! I got caught up in some of the things on my “To Do” list, felt good about that, took a nap and felt REALLY good about that, and realized I forgot all about checking email! I ended up really enjoying the rest of my day because of it. I had just given myself a gift.

I realize what a good experience this is to have happened early on in this new adventure. If I am going to look for external validation and affirmation every step of the way, I am going to waste a whole lot of my energy and time! Why am I needing that external source to approve my path? My dreams are big you see. People in my circle of life don’t necessarily “make it big”. I’m not saying I don’t know anyone successful. I do. We all do. But I’m talking BIG! So if I wait for someone else to validate me or the path I am on, then it may never happen. The most important one that needs to validate and affirm me is ME!

Mental and Emotional Block #2 ➡️ work on validating myself, affirming myself, Every.Single.Day!

Won’t you join me in validating and affirming yourself every day? I already know it will be Oh So Worth It! 🌈

It’s time…

Blessings dear ones,


P.S. At the time of writing, I still haven’t received an email response. And you know what? I’m okay with that.

If I Can See It, I Can Achieve It: Tackling My Mental Barriers

I will be honest with you. I’m not ready to share with you my list of dreams just yet. I know this contradicts the entire premise of a blog about going after my dreams right?!

But I also confess that I worry what others will think of me. In many aspects of my life I have made great strides in this area. I remind myself often, “What other people think of me is none of my business”. The more I allowed my self-talk to embrace this as a new “Truth”, the more true it actually became. HOWEVER, this is a brand new adventure and that old mental habit has reared its ugly head once again. Which really just tells me I have more growth in me about “people pleasing”. I recognize that I am allowing myself to be in a very vulnerable position by putting myself out there in this way. I believe this has triggered the old pattern of thinking. It is clear that this is a mental and emotional barrier that I must challenge and overcome if I am going to succeed in achieving my dreams.

So I vow to you, that I will continue to be honest and real with myself and then to share it with you, the reader. I will identify what blocks me or slows me down in the journey of realizing my dreams. I warn you, I fear there may be many patterns of thinking that I thought I had fully tackled. But I guess I am okay with that. Ultimately I really do want to grow. And I can’t do that without the inner discomfort and often times pain, that change requires.

And you know what? I feel more empowered just writing about all this. It’s as if another ounce of resolve has been unleashed within me. Yes! I CAN do this!

I also “know that I know that I know” I am not alone. And that brings me comfort. It makes me wish I had a seat around the table with successful women to be privy to their thoughts and struggles within along their journey. I would love that.

I am giving myself homework for the week. It is this:

* Each day I am going to write in my journal, why I can achieve my dreams. I won’t repeat the same reason twice.

And the second part is:

* I am going to choose a new “Truth” to speak aloud, all throughout the day, even if just whispering it softly. I have done this many times before to successfully tackle my inner critic when it comes to professional self-doubt. This gives me absolute faith that it will succeed again. Because what happens, is this new truth? It seeps into my very soul and I end up believing it. Oh the emotional freedom this brings!!

I am going to do this because it builds confidence that I desperately lack right now. It also chips away at my “people pleasing” tendencies. I can’t REALLY go after all my dreams if I worry about what other people will think of me. It ultimately does not matter what others think. But what is CRITICAL is what I think of myself.

What I think, becomes what I believe. What I think and believe drive my actions. If I can’t see myself achieving my dreams I won’t. And that is no longer acceptable to me.

I would love to hear what mental and emotional blocks you have, those things that impede you from living your best life. Shoot me an email. Perhaps we can learn from one another. 😊

Today is one more day of action, one more day into this new journey. I started out writing with such timidness in my heart. Right now, I feel excitement again. And that is a very good thing.

It’s time…

Blessings dear ones,


%d bloggers like this: